Kids and Fears
has worries and fears. Some children are afraid of one specific thing, like bugs, dogs, the dark or storms. Some kids are
afraid of many things like getting lost, being alone, the dark, new places and more. Even adults feel worried at times.
As we grow older many of those fears go away because we learned the difference between a real danger and something that
won't actually cause us harm. We also learn as we grow ways to stay and be safe.
older kids still worry about: grades, relationships, being popular, being teased or not accepted by other kids, finding
a job, leaving home, death, finding a boy/girl friend, scary things on tv or things that happen in real life that are scary
and even world problems like poverty, war and pollution. I was very, very, very scared to speak in front of my classmates
when I was in middle and high school. I avoided public speaking at every chance I could.
It isn't easy to admit that you are scared. It is okay to have fears and worries.
Maybe you have difficulty understanding your fears. Make a list of all of your fears and worries. It is helpful to keep a
journal and write them down. Ask yourself: where in your body do you feel fear? What does it feel like? If you were to draw
your body, what color would the fear be? Which fears are the hardest to deal with? Who can you talk to about
what is bothering you. What could you tell them? How may that person help? What are some things you can do that help
you to feel better?
are fears and worries?
Fears and worries are not always bad. There are good
reasons to be afraid or worried like if a growling dog is circling around you or if a bully wanted to punch you. It is a positive
thing to be afraid as the fear is actually serving to protect you. When our body senses danger it begins to make chemicals
that get us ready to fight, run away or stay perfectly still. Experts call this fight, flight or freeze. These reactions
in our body happen in seconds. We can not help that our bodies react this way, it is the way they are made. Long ago we had
to protect ourselves from wild animals and other dangers. Sometimes you can even see animals do this when they are in danger:
fight, flight or freeze. Freezing helps us not to be noticed.
So what happens in our bodies?
we go into fight mode: our heart pumps more blood so that we have the strength to fight. Adrenaline
flows through our body which gives us a short burst of energy.
we go into flight mode: Our body revs up so that we can run faster and the blood flows to our legs
so that we can get away. This helps us to run away and escape danger.
When we go into freeze mode: Our body makes us stop and stay still. We can't move even
if we wanted to . We feel revved up, but the energy isn't used to fight or to run away.
things happen too: these are all perfectly normal reactions. They go away when the adrenaline stops flowing:
- we may break out in a sweat all over
- we may feel our hands and feel to be cold and/or
- we may have goose bumps (when the hair on your body stands up, making the skin look bumpy)
- butterflies in our stomach
- a rush of blood to hands and face and scalp
- feel like you can't think straight