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The National Domestic Violence Hotline Number: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224 What is Domestic Violence? Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone. Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:
You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:
If you answered ‘yes’ to these questions you may be in an abusive relationship; please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) or your local domestic violence center to talk with someone about it. Each year in America approximately 4 million women are battered by their partners.
Domestic abuse affects people of all socioeconomic, racial, ethnic, and religious groups. Children from homes of domestic
violence suffer physical abuse, or neglect at a much higher rate than the national average. Children who witness abuse suffer
emotional trauma. They may experience confusion, stress and fear, which can lead to stress induced health problems.
Domestic abuse is a crime and can result in the abuser being removed or restrained from the home and/or jailed. Loveisrespect.org (Love is Respect) National Dating Abuse Helpline | 1-866-331-9474 | 1-866-331-8453 TTY loveisrespect.org provides resources for teens, parents, friends and family, Peer Advocates, government officials, law enforcement officials and the general public. All communication is confidential and anonymous. About the Helplineloveisrespect, National Dating Abuse Helpline was launched in February 2007 with help from founding sponsor, Liz Clairborne Inc. It is a national 24-hour resource that can be accessed by phone or the internet, specifically designed for teens and young adults. The Helpline and loveisrespect.org offer real-time one-on-one support from trained Peer Advocates. Managed by the National Domestic Violence Hotline (NDVH), loveisrespect, National Dating Abuse Helpline operates from a call center in Austin, Texas. Peer Advocates are trained to offer support, information and advocacy to those involved in dating abuse relationships as well as concerned parents, teachers, clergy, law enforcement, and service providers. Contact Love is Respect (loveisrespect)If you have questions about teen dating abuse, please contact them at www.loveisrespect.org If you wish to remain anonymous please enter “site visitor” in the ‘name’ fields or leave them blank. An email address is required to use this form. However, if you do not feel safe receiving email, please go to a safe location and contact
the National Dating Abuse Helpline at: If you are looking to order mini posters and quiz cards as seen at an exhibit, please use this form. You can also find print-ready pdfs in our resource center. JBWS: Jersey Battered Women's Service: 24 hour helpline: 1-877-782-2873
(877-R-U-ABUSED) Domestic Violence is when one person controls
another or coerces the other in an intimate relationship. Types of abuse include physical, verbal, emotional, economic and
sexual as well as intimidation and threats of violence. Who are the victims? Most are women abused by men. However there
are cases of women who abuse their male partner, women who abuse women and men who abuse men. A person may be a victim
even if he/she is not legally married to the abusive partner, is gay or lesbian, separated or divorces or is abuse by someone
else in the home such as a parent, sibling or child. Why doesn't the victim leave? Most victims want
to leave and may try to leave. Some times their partner uses intimidation and violence to stop them, and they fear retaliation.
Victims don't stay because they like or need the abuse. They stay, hoping the violence will end, because they are financially
dependent on the abuser, lack alternative housing, or are trying to keep the family together. They stay hoping change is possible. Services offered by JBWS: 24 hour helpline - Emergency safe house for women and their children - Counseling and
legal assistance- Children's services Transitional housing- life skills education- Vocational counseling- Community
education- Training for professionals- Teenage Dating abuse prevention- Batterers Intervention More than 75 paid staff and over 100 volunteers work together with the help of the
community to fulfill the agency mission. The Mission of WomensLaw.org is to provide easy-to-understand legal information and resources to women living
with or escaping domestic violence or sexual assault. By reaching out through the Internet, we empower women and girls to
lead independent lives, free from abuse. What
School Staff Can Do About Domestic Violence School staff can help students deal with domestic violence and dating abuse. Principals,
teachers, nurses, aids, counselors, bus drivers, crossing guards, custodians and other support staff can model respect in
relationships, create safety for all students, assist students affecting by dating abuse and domestic violence, and motivate
students to create change.
For more information or to schedule a presentation through JBWS call Community Relations Department at 973-267-7520 WWW.JBWS.org The YWCA of Eastern Union County is a non profit
organization serving the women, children and families of Union County since 1920. The YWCA EUC's services include a 24 hour
hotline, temporary emergency shelter, supportive housing, advocacy, counseling, children's services and legal advocacy, accompanniment
and representation. Empty Place: remembers victims of domestic violence "An Empty Place at the Table" an event to honor the memory of victims of domestic violence.
The event will take place in The Little Theater in the University Center at Kean University, 1000 Morris Ave, Union on Oct
26, 2009. The time is 3-8 pm. Lisa Regina is an artist educator who utilizes her skills in acting, writing and directing
to create projects that shed light on stories that often go unheard. Regina's non profit organization , A Write to Heal, evolved
after Lisa's traumatic assualt on April 2, 2005. Her physical and emotional injuries led the actress to utilize her artistic
skills in an alternate way towards healing through the medium of writing and performance. Surviving family member are invited
to be involved in their family member's place setting. If you have a loved one who has lost their life to domestic violence
and wish to have their lives memorialized, feel free to contact Kris at 908-518-9911. Domestic violence affects every member of the family, including the children. Family violence creates a home environment
where children live in constant fear. Children who witness family violence are affected in ways similar to children who are physically abused.. They are often unable to establish nurturing bonds with either parent Children are at greater risk for abuse and neglect if they live in a violent home. Statistics show that over 3 million children witness violence in their home each year. Those who see and hear violence in the home suffer physically and emotionally. "Families under stress produce children under stress. If a spouse is being abused and there are children in
the home, the children are affected by the abuse." (Ackerman and Pickering, 1989) Dynamics of domestic violence are unhealthy for children:
Children exposed to family violence are more likely to develop social, emotional, psychological and or behavioral problems than those who are not. Recent research indicates that children who witness domestic violence show more anxiety, low self esteem, depression, anger and temperament problems than children who do not witness violence in the home. The trauma they experience can show up in emotional, behavioral, social and physical disturbances that effect their development and can continue into adulthood. Some potential effects: Emotional
Behavioral
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Parents- Giving Children Love and Care Nurturing children from abusive homes can bring healing to their lives. In giving needed love and care to children,
it is important for a parent to reflect these essentials:
National Resources Batterers Anonymous: National Self help program for men wish to control their anger and eliminate their abusive behavior
toward women. Buddy system. Group development manual (9.95) Write Batterers Anonymous, c/o Dr. Jerry Goffman, 1040 Mt.
Vernon Ave, G 306, Colton CA 92324 email: jerrygoffman@hotmail.com Pathways To Peace Inc. Self help program for anger management. In addition, offers education assistance with starting
groups. Web site: www.pathwaystopeaceinc.com ONLINE: Abused Guys: Online, Provides support for male victims of domestic violence. Offers online chat room and message
forum. Must join the group to post. Web site: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/abusedguys email
abusedguy@yahoo.com Battered
Husbands Support: Online, founded 1998. Support for men who have been or who are currently being battered by his female
or male partner. Offers message boards, chat room and useful links. Web site: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/batteredhusbandssupport Women's Emotional Abuse Support, online, Founded
1999. Offers mutual support and understanding for victims of verbal abuse. Provides message boards, chat room, links
and email group. Web site: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/womansemotionalabusesupport |
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