The National Domestic Violence Hotline Number:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224
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we empower women and girls to lead independent lives, free from abuse.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain
power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or
psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate,
terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can
happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living
together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:
- Calls you names, insults you or continually
- Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
- Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
- Does not want you to work.
- Controls finances
or refuses to share money.
- Punishes you by withholding affection.
- Expects you to ask permission.
Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
- Humiliates you in any way.
may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
- Damaged property when angry
(thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
- Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked
- Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
you by driving recklessly.
- Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
Forced you to leave your home.
- Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
- Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
- Hurt your children.
- Used physical force in sexual situations.
You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if
- Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
- Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
- Wants you
to dress in a sexual way.
- Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
- Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
Held you down during sex.
- Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
- Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
- Involved other people in sexual activities
- Ignored your feelings regarding sex.
you answered ‘yes’ to these questions you may be in an abusive relationship; please call the National Domestic
Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) or your local domestic violence center to talk with someone
Each year in America approximately 4 million women are battered by their partners. Domestic
abuse affects people of all socioeconomic, racial, ethnic, and religious groups. Children from homes of domestic violence
suffer physical abuse, or neglect at a much higher rate than the national average. Children who witness abuse suffer emotional
trauma. They may experience confusion, stress and fear, which can lead to stress induced health problems. Domestic abuse
is a crime and can result in the abuser being removed or restrained from the home and/or jailed.
loveisrespect.org provides resources for teens, parents, friends and family, Peer Advocates, government
officials, law enforcement officials and the general public. All communication is confidential and anonymous.
About the Helpline
Dating Abuse Helpline was launched in February 2007 with help from founding sponsor, Liz Clairborne Inc. It is a national
24-hour resource that can be accessed by phone or the internet, specifically designed for teens and young adults. The Helpline
and loveisrespect.org offer real-time one-on-one support from trained Peer Advocates. Managed by the National Domestic Violence
Hotline (NDVH), loveisrespect, National Dating Abuse Helpline operates from a call center in Austin, Texas.
Peer Advocates are trained to offer support, information and advocacy to those involved in dating abuse relationships
as well as concerned parents, teachers, clergy, law enforcement, and service providers.
Contact Love is Respect (loveisrespect)
If you have questions about teen dating abuse,
please contact them at www.loveisrespect.org If you wish to remain anonymous please enter “site visitor” in the ‘name’
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you do not feel safe receiving email, please go to a safe location and contact the National Dating Abuse Helpline
- 1-866-331-9474, or
- TTY 1-866-331-8453
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JBWS: Jersey Battered Women's Service:
24 hour helpline: 1-877-782-2873 (877-R-U-ABUSED)
Domestic Violence is when one person controls another
or coerces the other in an intimate relationship. Types of abuse include physical, verbal, emotional, economic and sexual
as well as intimidation and threats of violence.
Who are the victims? Most are women abused by men. However there
are cases of women who abuse their male partner, women who abuse women and men who abuse men. A person may be a victim
even if he/she is not legally married to the abusive partner, is gay or lesbian, separated or divorces or is abuse by someone
else in the home such as a parent, sibling or child.
Why doesn't the victim leave?
Most victims want to leave and may try to leave. Some
times their partner uses intimidation and violence to stop them, and they fear retaliation. Victims don't stay because they
like or need the abuse. They stay, hoping the violence will end, because they are financially dependent on the abuser, lack
alternative housing, or are trying to keep the family together. They stay hoping change is possible.
offered by JBWS:
24 hour helpline
- Emergency safe house for women and their children - Counseling and legal assistance- Children's services
life skills education- Vocational counseling- Community education- Training for professionals- Teenage Dating abuse prevention-
than 75 paid staff and over 100 volunteers work together with the help of the community to fulfill the agency mission.
School Staff Can Do About Domestic Violence:
School staff can help students deal with
domestic violence and dating abuse. Principals, teachers, nurses, aids, counselors, bus drivers, crossing guards, custodians
and other support staff can model respect in relationships, create safety for all students, assist students affecting by dating
abuse and domestic violence, and motivate students to create change.
- Learn more about domestic violence and dating abuse and how it impacts the students in your school.
- Invite speakers such as Jersey Battered Women's Shelters to conduct
trainings about domestic violence, the impact of it on children, teen dating abuse, how to help students experiencing this
and resoruces for school personnel.
seminars for parents about fostering healthy relationship and information about domestic violence and dating abuse.
- Recognize that dating violence happens for same-sex couples too
and provide information about domestic violence and dating violence.
- Conduct dating abuse prevention education in health classes.
- Have written information about domestic violence and dating violence
available to students, parents and school staff. Hang flyers in the bathrooms, main office, school nurse's office and other
- Sponsor and encourage
student led events, such as a dating abuse prevention week, or other activities from student leadership groups.
- Investigate your school district policy on domestic violence and
dating abuse. If you think they need revising ask the JBWS for help.
- Prevent language in schools that is dehumanizing and sexist.
- Create a culture where physical, emotional, sexual abuse, along
with controlling and coercive behavior is unacceptable.
- Have male teachers, coaches and other male school staff model respect in their relationships. "Coaching
Boys into Men" through the Family Violence Prevention Fund is a useful resource.
- For more information or to schedule a presentation
through JBWS call
- Community Relations Department at 973-267-7520 WWW.JBWS.org
Domestic Violence Support Groups by County:
Providence House: Professionally run, Support, education, counseling and
shelter for victims who are or have been in abusive situations. Meets in Delran. Children's counseling services: Call 1-877-871-7551
Women's Domestic Violence Support Group: (Bilingual) Professionally
run. Mutual support for female victims/survivors of domestic violence. Educational series and advocacy. Call 856-963-5668
(day) Web site: www.ccwomenscenter.org Camden: meets Thursday, 12 noon -2pm Collingswood:
Babyland Family Violence Program: Professionally
run, Support for women who have been in abusive relationships. Aim is to educate, liberate and empower domestic violence victims
and survivors. Shelter and hotline. Pre-requisite requirements. Also offers a men's PEACE group ($2 fee) Meets at various
locations in Essex County. 973-484-4446 (24hour) Web site: www.babylandfamilyservices.org
SERV (Services Empowering Rights
of Victims) Support and education for women survivors of domestic violence. Meets Monday 6:30 pm Glassboro call
Women's Project Groups: Professionally run, Support, education, workshops and groups to help women
on subjects such as self-esteem, separation/divorce, domestic violence, employment and stress management. Meetings vary.
Christ Hospital, 176 Palisade Ave, Jersey City. Call first Michele 201-795-8375 ex. 8416 (day)
SAFE in Hunterdon: Professionally
run, Support group and services for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Also serves children who are witnesses
of domestic violence. Offers a men's compassion therapy program for a fee. Meetings vary, 47E Main Street, Flemington. 908-788-7666
day or 888-099-4033 (24 hour hotline) TTY: 856-954-0100 web site: www.safeinhunterdon.org
Manavi: South Asian Prof run, Provides emotional support for any South Asian woman (Indian, Pakistan, Bangladishi,
Nepali, Sri Lankan) as they work through the effects of abuse. A safe space for women to share personal experiences. Provides
a comfortable atmosphere to develop relationships which are trusting and caring. Meetings vary: 3-4:30pm Manavi, New Brunswick.
Childcare available. Call 732-435-1414 web site: www.manavi.org eamail: email@example.com
The Next Step: Professionally run, Emotional support for current and former victims of domestic violence (regardless of marital status
or sexual orientation). Group explores options and tools to get back control in their lives. Various meeting locations
throughout Middlesex County. Call 732-725-1689 (all calls are confidential).
Women Aware, Inc. (Bilingual) Prof run, Support groups, education and advocacy for battered women. Info on emergency shelter and other
services. Call 732-249-4504.(Voice/ TTY) 24hr. Legal advocacy, 732-937-9525 day. web site: www.womenaware.net
Jersey Battered Women's Service, Inc (Bilingual) Prof run, Provides support groups and a safe
home for victims or survivors of domestic violence and/or abusive relationships. Spanish-speaking groups available. Children's
program services available. Legal advocacy. Call 973-267-4763. Helpline (TTY) 973-285-9095 (24 hr). Also
Jersey Center for Non-Violence offers services to assist batterers in stopping abuse and in developing alternative behaviors.
Call 973-539-7801 web site: www.jbws.org email firstname.lastname@example.org
Domestic Violence/Parenting Support Group: Prof run. Provides emotional
support and networking for women who are or who have been, in domestic violent situations. Educational series, social group,
advocacy and guest speakers. Offers parenting classes. Meets Thurs 6-8pm. Senior Citizen Center, 330 A Passaic
St, Passaic. Call Miriam 973-365-5740 (day) web site: www.passaicalliance.org
Passaic County Women's
Center: Bilingual, Prof run, Support for survivors of domestic violence and/or sexual assault. Discussion
including coping skills, legal issues and parenting skills. Various groups meet weekly in Paterson. Call Tracy Francese
973-881-0725 hot line 24 hr. 973-881-1450
Female Victims and
Survivors of Family Violence: Prof run. Support, education and information for women to share with other victims. Meets
bi-weekly in a confidential location in Salem. Mens' batterers program also. Call 856-935-6655 (24 hr) TTY: 856-935-7118
Domestic Abuse Services, Inc. Mutual support for survivors of domestic violence and abuse.
Meets in Newton. Call 973-875-6369 (24hr) web site: www.dasi.org email: email@example.com
Project Protect: Prof run, Provides support to victims of domestic violence. Meetings vary in Cranford. Call 908-355-4357
Women's Domestic Violence Support Group:
Prof run, Supportive and confidential environment to help women victims of domestic violence work towards healing. Need prior
screening to attend. Educational series. Meets Tues 11:30 Am -1pm Hackettstown. For info on meeting call 908-453-4181
ext 303. TTY 908-453-2553 web site: www.darccwc.org
Batterers Anonymous: National
Self help program for men wish to control
their anger and eliminate their abusive behavior toward women. Buddy system. Group development manual (9.95) Write Batterers
Anonymous, c/o Dr. Jerry Goffman, 1040 Mt. Vernon Ave, G 306, Colton CA 92324 email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Pathways To Peace Inc.
Self help program
for anger management. In addition, offers education assistance with starting groups. Web site: www.pathwaystopeaceinc.com
Abused Guys: Online, Provides support for male victims of domestic violence.
Offers online chat room and message forum. Must join the group to post. Web site: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/abusedguys
Battered Husbands Support: Online, founded 1998. Support for men who have been or who are currently
being battered by his female or male partner. Offers message boards, chat room and useful links. Web site: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/batteredhusbandssupport
Women's Emotional Abuse Support, online, Founded 1999. Offers mutual
support and understanding for victims of verbal abuse. Provides message boards, chat room, links and email group. Web