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Great Quotes on Grief:
There is something you must always remember. you are braver than you
believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. ~ Winnie the Pooh
What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us. - Helen Keller When a person is born we rejoice, and when they're married we jubilate, but when they die we try to pretend nothing has happened.- Margaret Mead No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear.- C.S. Lewis She was no longer wresting with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts. - George Eliot Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve. - Earl Grollman Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind." - Henry JamesOne cannot get through life without pain...What we can do is choose how to use the pain life presents to us. - Bernie S. Siegel Honest listening is one of the best medicines we can offer the dying and the bereaved. - Jean Cameron (dying of cancer) You give yourself permission to grieve by recognizing the need for grieving. Grieving is the natural way of working through the loss of a love. Grieving is not weakness nor absence of faith. Grieving is as natural as crying when you are hurt, sleeping when you are tired or sneezing when your nose itches. It is nature's way of healing a broken heart. - Doug ManningFor some moments in life there are no words. - David Seltzer, Willy Wonka
and the Chocolate Factory Those who have suffered understand suffering and therefore extend their hand.- Patti Smith There is no grief like the grief that does not speak. -Henry Wordsworth We can endure much more than we think we can; all human experience testifies to that. All we need to do is learn not to be afraid of pain. Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don't deny it, don't be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever. One day, the pain will be gone and you will still be there. - Harold Kushner When All You've Ever Wanted Isn't Enough A child can live with anything as long as he or she is told the truth and is allowed to share with loved ones the natural feelings people have when they are suffering.- Eda LeShan When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. -Henri Nouwen Nothing that grieves us can be called little; by the external laws of proportion a child's loss of a doll and a king's loss of a crown are events of the same size. Mark Twain, Which was the Dream? (1897) Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion to death.- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross "Deposits of unfinished grief reside in more American hearts that I ever imagined. Until these pockets are opened and their contents aired openly, they block unimagined amounts of human growth and potential. They can give rise to bizarre and unexplained behavior which causes untold internal stress." - Robert Kavanaugh "Grieving is a journey that teaches us how to love in a new way now that our loved one is no longer with us. Consciously remembering those who have died is the key that opens the hearts, that allows us to love them in new ways." - Tom Attig, The Heart of Grief “Ah. I smiled. I'm not really
here to keep you from freaking out. I'm here to be with you while you freak out, or grieve or laugh or suffer or sing. It
is a ministry of presence. It is showing up with a loving heart.”
You all know that I have been sustained
throughout my life by three saving graces - my family, my friends, and a faith in the power of resilience and hope. These
graces have carried me through difficult times and they have brought more joy to the good times than I ever could have imagined. "He wept, and it felt as if the
tears were cleansing him, as if his body needed to empty itself.”
At some of the darkest moments in my life, some people I thought of as
friends deserted me-some because they cared about me and it hurt them to see me in pain; others because I reminded them of
their own vulnerability, and that was more than they could handle. But real friends overcame their discomfort and came to
sit with me. If they had not words to make me feel better, they sat in silence (much better than saying, "You'll
get over it," or "It's not so bad; others have it worse") and I loved them for it. - Harold Kushner, Living
a Life that Matters "It is very easy to see the allure of alcohol to dull the pain and the temptation to punish myself for something that is not my fault. But he sobering truth is that if I step onto the path of self-destruction, I know I will never come back. " Bill Jenkins, What to Do When the Police Leave: A Guide to the First Days of Traumatic Loss While grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till it be digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it. ~ Samuel Johnson Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break. ~ William Shakespeare Man, when he does not grieve, hardly exists. ~ Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin Even hundredfold grief is divisible by love. ~ Terri Guillemets Sorrow makes us all children again - destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Memory is a way of holding onto the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose. ~ From the television show The Wonder Years If you're going through hell, keep going. ~ Winston Churchill We acquire the strength we have overcome. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Time is a physician that heals every grief. ~ Diphilus The deep pain that is felt at the death of every friendly soul arises from the feeling that there is in every individual something which is inexpressible, peculiar to him alone, and is, therefore, absolutely and irretrievably lost. ~ Arthur Schopenhauer There's a bit of magic in everything, and some loss to even things out. ~ Lou Reed, "Magic and Loss" Courage is being afraid but going on anyhow. ~ Dan Rather You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. ~ Jan Glidewell Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal. ~ Author Unknown There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go. ~ Author Unknown If you suppress grief too much, it can well redouble. ~ Moliere Loss is nothing else but change, and change is Nature's delight. ~ Marcus Aurelius, Meditations In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing. ~ Robert Ingersoll Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it. ~ Jacques Prévert The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep. ~ Henry Maudsley Every evening I turn my worries over to God. He's going to be up all night anyway. ~ Mary C. Crowley She was no longer wrestling with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts. ~ George Eliot While we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil. ~ John Taylor As long as I can I will look at this world for both of us. As long as I can I will laugh with the birds, I will sing with the flowers, I will pray to the stars, for both of us. ~ Sascha,
"Suicide is unspeakable, and to speak it is somehow to bring
it into a human, imaginable sphere, even if only in the moment of speaking. The need to tell is both a need to tell oneself
and a need to be heard.... Telling and being heard are the first steps toward reconnection." ~ Victoria Alexander,
In the Wake of Suicide: Stories of the People Left Behind "In the face of events that threaten to overwhelm our lives, storytelling gives us a way of reclaiming ourselves
and reaffirming our connections with other people--those who listen to our stories and, by doing so, bear witness with us."
~ Victoria Alexander, In the Wake of Suicide: Stories of the People Left Behind "Courage
is being afraid and going on the journey anyhow". -- John Wayne "You can
clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present." -- Jan Glidwell We Remember Them… In the rising of the sun and in its going down, We remember them; In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter, We remember them; In the opening of buds and in the warmth of summer, We remember them; In the rustling of leaves and the beauty of autumn, We remember them; In the beginning of the year and when it ends, We remember them; When we are weary and in need of strength, We remember them; When we are lost and sick at heart, We remember them; When we have joys we yearn to share, We remember them; So long as we live, they too shall live For they are now a part of us as We remember them. from Gates of Prayer, Judaism Prayerbook
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