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Adult books


·         Healing Your Grieving Heart for Kids:  100 practical ideas: simple advice and activities for children after a death by Alan Wolfelt.  Letting out our grief is called mourning. This books helps children mourn so they can feel better and live a happy and full life again.


·         Healing a Teen’s Grieving Heart: 100 practical ideas for families, friends and caregivers: by Alan Wolfelt.  An ideal resource for parents, teachers, coaches and others who want to help a teen in grief.


·         The Seasons of Grief; Helping Your Children Grow through Their Loss by Donna Gaffney  A helpful book for both parents and professionals with important advice on helping children grow through crises.


·         Suicide Prevention, Intervention and Postvention by Earl Grollman.  How to recognize the warning signs of potential suicide, how to intervene when a suicide has been attempted and how to comfort the family after a life has been taken.


·         What Does That Mean:  A Dictionary of Death, Dying and Grief Terms for Grieving Children and Those who Love Them.   By Harold Ivan Smith and Joy Johnson 



·         Never Too Young To Know: Death in Children’s Lives by Phyllis Rolfe Silverman  The experience of death and loss is unavoidable and this book offers practical and a theoretical approach to how children cope with death. The wide range of effects of loss upon children are explored, the challenges they face as they grieve and the ways of supporting them as they change and grow in the process.


·         Bereaved  Children and Teens: a support guide for parents and professionals. Edited by Earl Grollman, rabbi and author of books on death and loss.  A complete resource for parents and professionals seeking to help children cope with the death of someone they know.


·         Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers:  by Earl Grollman.  Excellent book for adults and teens.


·         Talking About Death: A Dialogue between Parent and Child:  by Earl Grollman. Award winning book. Named hero of the heartland for his work with children following the Oklahoma City bombing.  Helpful and sensitive advice for families coping with loss.

·         Teens Who Hurt: Clinical Interventions to Break the Cycle of Adolescent Violence: by Kenneth Hardy and Tracey Laszloffy  Author identifies four critical factors that push some adolescents to commit harmful, even deadly acts: devaluation, erosion or community, dehumanized loss and rage. Guidance on connecting with aggressive teens, and managing difficult situations are discussed.


·         How to Help Children Through a Parent’s Serious Illness by Kathleen McCue. Practical handbook prepares parents to address children’s fears with honest and profound empathy.


·         When a Parent Has Cancer: A guide to caring for your children  by Wendy Schlessel Harpham, MD  Provides comfort and reassurance and practical advice to families facing cancer. A physician and cancer survivor , offers help for parents.  Also included is a book called Becky and the Worry Cup: children’s book that tells the story of a 7 year old girl’s experiences with her mother’s cancer.


·         Life and Loss: a guide to help grieving children by Linda Goldman  A teaching manual for everyone who works, lives, or loves grieving children. Teaches adults to help young people through the grief process with care, understanding and love.


·         The Goldfish Went on Vacation: a memoir of loss and learning to tell the truth about it. By Patty Dann.  A touching memoir about loss and what comes after. A collage of vignettes chronicles the story of a wife slowly losing her husband whose brain could no longer remember the purpose of a paperclip. Out of a tragedy, she has created a book to help others live. She guides her young son through this ordeal with patience, honesty and true presence.


·         Breaking the Silence: A guide to helping children with complicated grief- suicide, homicide, AIDS, violence and abuse.  By Linda Goldman.  Designed for educators, mental health professionals, caregivers and parents, it presents techniques, words, activities and methods to initiate discussion of these sensitive issues.  Provides valuable tools to break down the process of grieving for children. Resources are offered for facilitating the grieving process at home, school or in treatment.


·         Helping the Bereaved Chilld: grief gardening, growth through grief and other touchstones for caregivers. By Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.  A must read for child counselors, hospice caregivers, funeral directors, school counselors, teachers, clergy and parents. Understand children and grief, counseling techniques, helping grieving children at school, helping the grieving adolescent and self care for the child’s counselor.


·         But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: for professionals helping child suicide survivors by Barbara Rubel   A practical approach to working with children who are suffering the loss of a loved one due to suicide. 


·         After a Parent’s Suicide: helping children heal  by Margo Requarth. Helps adults explain suicide to a child and how children grieve, how grief impacts adolescents, as well as spiritual and religious perspectives on suicide and how to help children return to normalcy.


·         No Time to Say Goodbye: surviving the suicide of a loved one. By Carla Fine . Brings suicide survivors from the darkness into the light, speaking frankly and with compassion about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger and loneliness that are shared by all survivors. 


·         Caring for Your Grieving Child: engaging activities for dealing with loss and transition by Martha Wakenshaw  Excellent resource of information and advice for both parents of children who are grieving and professionals who work with children. It is a perfect guide to a child’s response to stress and loss.


·         The Worst Loss: how families heal from the death of a child by Barbara D. Rosof, Written by a child psycho-therapist, author draws on families’ stories as well as research on grieving to answer questions such as: how do families survive the worst loss? What helps people heal? What have families and clinicians learned that will help others through their loss and enbable them to rebuild their lives? This book will serve as a powerful guide.


·         The Year of Magical Thinking  by Joan Didion. An author shares an intensely personal yet universal experience: a portrait of a marriage and a life, in good time and bad times-that will speak to anyone who has ever loved a husband or wife or child. This is the story of how one woman attempts to make sense of the weeks and months after the sudden death of her husband.


·         Surviving a Sibling: Discovering Life After Loss by Scott Mastley  Sibling grief is profound, with universal components that are minimally addressed by grief specialists. This book describes the attachment, expectation and response to loss through Scott’s experience of the death of his brother, Chris.


·         When Children Grieve: for adults to help children deal with death, divorce, pet loss, moving and other losses.  By John James and Russell Friedman.


·         The Grief Recovery Handbook: by J.James and R.Friedman  Wonderful book with actual steps to take that can help people move through their own grief in healthy ways.


·         A Grief Disguised: how the soul grows through love by Jerry Sittser. Loss. It’s a word that many of us fear and few of us can evade. It stalked Jerry one night and struck with full fury on a lonely road in Idaho. In an instant, a tragic accident claimed three generations of his family: his mother, his wife and his young daughter. This is a moving medication on the losses we all suffer and the grace that can transform us. Amazingly important book.


·         A Grief Like No Other: surviving the violent death of someone you love by Kathleen O’Hara. This is helpful if someone has dealt with a violent death from such things as: suicide, drug overdose, and death by vehicular homicide and drunk drivers. This type of grief is different as it may be filled with intense feelings of guilt, anger, PTSD, and at times years spent with legal ramifications. A seven stage plan to help those survive the unthinkable.


·         Liberating Losses: when death brings relief: by Jennifer Elison, and Chris McGonigle. A pioneering and remarkable book about a profound and complex subject not previously addressed or understood.  As taboo as it is to admit, not every death brings great sadness. Labeled “nontraditional loss response” by therapists, a positive reaction following a death is more frequently encountered now that medical treatments keep people alive much longer than they or their families may wish. 


·         The Price of Privilege: how parental pressure and material advantage are creating a generation of disconnected and unhappy kids by Madeline Levine, Ph.D.  With up to date scientific research, compelling clinical cases and a refined sense of empathy, Levine teaches us about the difficult challenges faced by affluent families and provides useful, strategies for helping them toward more fulfilling lives. Teaches parents to teach their children what they need to learn the most- how to manage their emotions and impulses, form healthy relationships, think for themselves and become useful, well adjusted and moral people.


·         Being a Wounded Healer: how to heal ourselves while we are healing others by Douglas C. Smith, Wonderful book for everyone who wants to find healing in the midst of pain and suffering.


·         Ambiguous Loss: learning to live with unresolved grief by Pauline Boss. Frozen sadness: this is what we have when we cannot really know what we have lost. And this is what Pauline Boss illuminates, and helps to ease as she addresses such things as divorce, adoption, addiction, chronic mental illness, immigration, or Alzheimer’s. Wonderful resource.


·         Here If You Need Me: a true story  A remarkable journey from grief to faith to happiness. Dramatic, funny, deeply moving and simply unforgettable- it is a story of finding God by helping others and offers proof of the miracles that happen every day when a heart is grateful and life and love restored. Author lost husband in a sudden accident, and had four young children.  She became a minister and then served as chaplain for search and resuce missions in the Maine woods, giving comfort to people whose loved ones were missing, and to the wardens who sometimes had to deal with dreadful outcomes.


·         Coming Out, Coming In: nurturing the well-being and inclusion of gay youth in mainstream society.  By Linda Goldman.  Provides a comprehensive primer for psychologists, clinicians, educators, and families to help us how to provide the care, respect, and unconditional love that all youth deserve, regardless of differences.


·         The Lovely Bones: by Alice Sebold   The novel about  a young girl who was murdered in 1973 who is adjusting to her new home in heaven, a place that is not at all what she expected, even as she is watching life on earth continue without her-her friends trading rumors about her disappearance, her killer trying to cover his tracks, her grief-stricken family unraveling. Out of unspeakable tragedy and loss, The Lovely Bones succeeds, miraculously in building a tale filled with hope, humor, suspense, even joy.

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