Here are just some of the comments from the students:
I think that the presentation was very informative. I think Lisa did a great
job of explaining how to cope with grief. She didn't just list facts but actually used real life examples to explain everything.
I loved that she gave us Play Doh to make sure that we weren't bored and it helped us to listen. She really taught me that
you are never really alone and that there is always someone to talk to about any problem a teen may have.
liked the grief speaker who came in to our class yesterday. She was a good speaker and got our attention really well, which
isn't easy to do with teenagers in high school. She gave us Play Doh, which really helped us to be occupied and played
some music at times in her presentation which kept it all interesting. She had us get involved by tossing around balls that
listed "normal signs of grief" and had us ask anonymous questions on index cards. She read them and gave us all
some good advice. I think her presentation was effective and I will use what I learned from her someday.
presentation Grief Speaks, had a large impact on me. She helped me with a problem that I just had the day before the talk.
I was able to put it on the index card and she really helped me with it when she read the card and gave me some suggestions.
She also taught me ways that I can help my classmates who may be going through tough times too. She had posters that listed
some very helpful information too.
The Play Doh helped to relieve my stress
and she taught us that we could handle any problem that was difficult with the help of others and by doing healthy things
like writing, talking to a trusted adult, calling a hot line, exercise and more. She made me feel good to know that someone
is always there to help me.
Lisa taught us how to make a bad situation better. She gave
us information on how to talk to someone if we can't talk to our parents. She gave us different ways on how to handle uncomfortable
situations and it is really good advice.
I thought that the speaker was very helpful. She made
me realize that my life isn't that bad and that I actually have it pretty good. She helped me to be positive and to avoid
all bad things that may come my way in high school. She made me want to help those people in need. I am so happy she came
into my school. She changed my life.
I thought the information you gave us was very important because when you
are feeling very sad, you should that that you are not alone and that it helps to let it all out in your own way and that
suicide is never the answer. I think this presentation is useful at some point in everyone's life.
Speaks goes into schools and speaks in classrooms to address classes or conducts an entire assembly on grief,
loss and healthy ways to cope. This is a very popular presentation. Students often tell Lisa that it was the most important
talk they have heard in their schooling as it pertains to each and every student, no matter what grade level. Everyone experiences some type of loss: death of a loved one, break up, loss of friends,
pet loss, not making a team, not getting into college of choice, living with someone physically or mentally ill, being bullied,
dealing with learning disabilities and more.
“It was so refreshing to have someone talk to us about dealing
with different kinds of grief. For me, this was the first time anyone has even spoken to me about how to handle loss.
It took so much tension from my life when I realized that all of the anger I was feeling was really just masked grief.”
" Thank you for helping me with my friend who has a dad who
was diagnosed with cancer a year ago. He is going to die and now I have learned things to do and say that can be helpful and
help her as well through it. Thank you for helping".
coming in. I learned that I am in grief over begin overweight My friends tease me a lot and I go along with it and make
fun of myself when really it hurts, and I wish so bad that I wasn't overweight."
think every student from Kindergarten up through high school should hear these presentations. This is so much more important
" I never knew how to react to my friend's father's death. Now I know it
is important to say that I am sorry. Listening to your heartfelt talk, made me realize that it is okay to express my emotions
with my friends and to seek help when necessary. It was the best assembly I've ever been in. Thank you so much for teaching
such important information." NJ high school senior
"You helped me realize
that although I haven't had anyone die, I am facing a loss anyway. I have an addiction and it is the hardest thing to deal
"A really good friend of mine cuts herself. Now I know I did the right thing by trying to get
"This was very enligntening. I have a friend in school who just lost her father. For the past
week I truly didn't know what to say to her. Thanks for this assembly, I am not able to be a good friend and comfort her by
telling her how sorry I am about her losing her father." high school senior
"This helped me a lot
to understand my own feelings. My grandpa died a few months ago and it was confusing to me. He lived in another country
and I didn't see or talk to him much. I felt like I should have been more upset and grieved like my parents did. Your talk
helped me to see that it is okay for me to feel the way I feel." high school junior
to our health class was extremely helpful. It helped me realize how I can deal with grief. I never was able to find a healthy
way to cope with my cousin's death. But after your presentation, I now know I can handle it in a healthy manner. I hope you
come again soon. HS freshman
Now that you came to our school
and talked about grief I now know how to act and what to say to friends who are grieving. I like that you gave us good things
to do with our feelings of grief.
These could have been hard
and uncomfortable topics to talk about, but it didn't seem that bad when you were talking about it. Being a person who experienced
some of the things you spoke about, helped me to get a lot out of it. Thanks, a freshman.
Your presentation on grief really helped me better understand
what grief is. Considering that I have had to deal with a lot of grief this past year, it is comforting to know what is normal
when it comes to grief. I feel more enlightened and knowledgeable about the subject of grief and the next time I experience
it, I won't be as overwhelmed. HS Freshman
Comments from HS freshmen 10/09:
Your presentation was informative and good. Thanks.
"Your presentation was very inspiring and your really helped me to realize that you don't need to cry when you
really liked that we did the index card thing. It was good to be able to write what I wanted onto a card without anyone knowing
who wrote it."
I think you are such an amazing and inspirational person and you are great
at what you do!
Some reaction letters following my presentations
to high school students in the fall of 2009:
Lisa taught our class that it is important to talk to someone about our problems. It was great to
learn about grief and loss and ways to handle it. She gave us Play Doh and to play with and it helped a lot. This was a great
presentation to experience. Now I know what to do when I am either depressed or lost someone close to me.
I liked Lisa and I like that I got Play Doh. I
realized that we all have problems. I learned that if I ever need someone or help I can call the hotline. the part when we
filled out anonymous index cards showed me that a lot of people do have problems and bottle it up.
My reaction to the speaker was that
I found it relaxing and helpful. The PlayDoh was fun to play with but the lesson was very helpful. I learned a lot. I know
that sometimes it is hard to cope with tough times or losses because I have already experienced some. She had some great ways
of expressing your feelings. The message came across very well.
The presentation helped me know what to say to a friend after he has had a loss, or is down or depressed. I thought
the Play Doh was a great idea so we had something to do. She helped me to talk about my grandpa's death and how to cope with
it. The presentation was very good and we found out what some kids do just because they are upset or angry. There are many
helpful ways to get your feelings out when you are grieving.
Feedback from a 6th grader in
Woodbridge School District following a classroom presentation on Coping with Grief, Loss and Other Tough Stuff
"I liked the assembly because it taught me ways to handle my emotions. It taught me how to handle
anger and sadness. I learned it is important to find safe ways to let it out. I realized that I bottle up my feelings and
then I eventually blow up on someone. I think this was a very useful assembly because now I understand more about my feelings.
I learned that we never have to be alone with our problems and that there are people to talk to even at school. If I am
depressed I can tell someone who can help me. Thanks."
A Parent following a Parent Program in Chatham: Raising Resilient
Children through Difficult Times
April 27, 2010
" I went to your program to gain a deeper insight into kids. I got that, but I got so much more, too!
See, the more I listened, the more I began to think about myself.
I thought about how the times I may have unknowingly
trivialized the grieving of others and how often others have unknowingly done the same to me. I also thought of how often
I have ignored my own losses by accepting the illusion that time will heal each and every wound. I, too, know this to be
I just wanted to write and thank you for today. I hope you are able to come back to Chatham. I would
love to hear more of your presentations. I wish so many more could, too."