Books that I recommend for Schools, Therapists and Parents:
Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes by Diane
Ehrensaft, PhD (2016) Should be required reading by all therapists, educator K-12 and pediatrician and parents whose
children express their gender differently.
The Transgender Child: A Handbook
for Families and Professionals by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper (2008)
Safe is Not Enough: Better Schools for LGBTQ Students by
Michael Sadowski, Forward by Kevin Jennings (2016)
Gender Quest Workbook: a guide for teens and young adults exploring gender identity by Rylan Jay Testa, PhD,
Deborah Coolhart, PhD and Jayme Peta, MA (2015)
+ Youth : A Guided Workbook to Support Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity by Lee-Anne
Gray, PhD. (2018)
The Right to Be Out:
Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity in America's Public Schools by Stuart Beigel (2010)
Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out
by Susan Kuklin, (2014)
GLBTQ : The Survival
Guide for Queer & Questioning Teens by Kelly Heugel (2003)
Queer: The Ultimate LGBT Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge and Marke Bieschke
Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising
Healthy Gender Non-Conforming Children by Diane Ehrensaft, PhD (2011)
Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family
by Amy Ellis Nutt, winner of the Pulitzer Prize (2015)
Grief: A Centering Corporation Resource by Harold Ivan Smith and Joy Johnson: Invaluable
resource for lesbian and gay people and their families. Profoundly spiritually insightful, wise, compassionate ground-breaking
book that will change lives.
For Parents and
Teachers of Young Children:
The Lopez Family Science Fair Day:
by Monica Bey-Clarke and Cheril N. Clarke (2011) book about Felix Lopez who has two dads. Teaches children life lessons by
Annie's Plaid Shirt by Stacy B Davids (2015)
A story about Annie who loves wearing a plaid shirt and one day her mom tells her she must wear a dress and Annie protests.
Why can't her mother understand that wearing a dress is miserable for Annie.
Am Jazz by Jessical Herthel and Jazz Jennings (2014)
Makes Three by Justin Richardson (2005) Children's book about a story of two male penguins who create
a family together.
The Trevor Project: Great website including the Trevor NATIONAL Lifeline:
GLSEN: Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network: Strives to assure that each member of every school community is values and respected regardless of sexual orientation
or gender identity/expression. www.glsen.org
HiTOPS: An educational and social support group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning youth and their allies.
Founded in 1987 HiTOPS helps adolescents clarify their values and make responsible decisions regarding their health,
and gives parents, teachers and caregivers of adolescents the tools they need to best support and guide the young people they
and Third: welcomes all youth to the meetings: When: The first and third Saturday of every month from 2:30-4:30pm, Where:
HiTOPS, Inc. 21 Wiggins Street, Princeton, NJ 08540 Bring a friend or come and meet new ones.
Forum: Breaking Barriers, Celebrating Diversity: The 7th Annual Conference for Gay Straight Alliances * Students
* Advisors *Supporters When: November 20, 2010 9:00 AM -4 PM Rutgers University, Hickman
Hall, Douglass Campus, 89 George Street, New Brunswick
Addiction and Mental Health in the Transgender Community (click on the link to a great resource)
Glossary of Terms:
Bi-sexual: a person who is emotionally, romantically and
sexually attracted to people of either sex.
Biological sex: The sex someone is born as.
Also referred to as birth sex, anatomical sex, physical sex.
Coming out: Disclosing one's sexual
orientation or gender identity to others. Some people never come out, some come out to a few individuals, others come out
to many people all at once, and for others the coming out process takes place slowly.
term is used often to describe both homosexual men and homosexual women, thought it more often refers to men. Gay describes
men who are emotionally, romantically and sexually attracted to other men. The word 'gay' didn't come into wide use to describe
homosexual people until the 1950s. Before that it was used as a code word for same sex sexuality.
Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA); A student club for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning students as well
as their straight allies. GSA's can provide a social haven and support for queer students. They can also work for positive
change on GLBTQ issues within a school or school system. GSA's are legally entitled to exist according to a federal court
Gender: While this word may be used to describe anatomy, it's really about a person's
identity as feminine or masculine, rather than the physical characteristics that make someone female or male. Gender is made
up of many things including, behaviors, cultural traits, and psychological traits that are associated with a specific sex.
Gender dysphoria: A term for the pain, anxiety and confusion that can result when
there is a disparity between a person's gender identity and biological sex. Pressure to conform to accepted gender roles and
expression, and a general lack of acceptance from society also contribute to it.
expression: How you express your gender identity. It includes your clothes, your hairstyle, your body language (how
you walk, your posture, your gestures, your mannerisms) and even your speech patterns. In society, people often take their
cues from someone's gender expression to decide that person's anatomical sex.
Your internal sense of being male or female- it's whether you consider or feel yourself to be male or female. A person's gender
identity doesn't necessarily reflect his or her biological sex. There are gender activitist, like Kate Bornstein, who believe
it's possible to have a gender identity that's male, female or something else entirely.
Identity Disorder: GID: Mental health professionals often diagnose transgender people with GID. A diagnosis of GID lets transgendered
people get mental and physical treatment, which can be especially helpful for people trying to physically transition their
gender, but a diagnosis of GID can also carry the stigma of mental illness.
a complex, multi step process of starting to live in a way that accurately reflects a transgendered person's true gender identity.
Transitioning primarily involves social issues such as changing your name, dressing differently, altering other aspects of
your appearance, like hair or makeup, and changing your mannerisms, voice and how you move. Transitioning doesn't by
definition include surgery or other physical changes though it may depend on the person. A physical transition may include
a medical professional. For some transitioning may include surgery.
GLBTQ: An acronym that stands
for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning
Intersex: People who are born with a mixture
of both male and female genitals or with ambiguous genitalia. In many cases, the doctor or the person's parents "choose"
their child's anatomy and the child has a series of surgeries throughout infancy and childhood to definitely assign one anatomical
sex. The surgery doesn't always result in a physical sex assignment that matches the person's gender. As a result,
some intersex people grow up having gender identity issues that mirror those experienced by transgender people.
Queer: Refers to GLBTQ people. Sometimes used as a slur, the term has been reclaimed by many GLBTQ people
who use it as an expression of pride. Some prefer to identify as queer rather than gay, lesbian, bisexual, or trangender,
because they feel it encompasses more of who they are or gives a greater sense of unity with the entire community.
Questioning: Being uncertain of one's sexual orientation or gender identity.
Behavior: Only describes sexual activity, not sexual identity. A man may identify as gay but still engage in sexual
behavior with women. That's still considered heterosexual behavior. Or a woman may not identify as a lesbian but may take
part in sexual activity with a woman. That is homosexual behavior.
Sexual Identity: How
a person views and identifies himself or herself in terms of his or her sexual orientation or behavior. Some people may identify
as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or straight; other people may refuse to identify with a particular label. Some GLBTQ people choose
to identify as queer for this reason. A person's identity is decided by the person, so a person who participates in straight
sexual behavior may still identify as a gay, lesbian or bisexual and vica versa. A person' sexual identity can change over
the course of his/her life.
Sexual Orientation: a term used to describe who someone is emotionally,
romantically, and sexually attracted to. Gay, lesbian, bisexual and straight all describe different forms of sexual orientation.
Sexual orientation isn't just about how someone has sex with. A more accurate phrase may be "emotional orientation"
or "affectional orientation." But for now it is the common phrase.
a person who has a gender identity or gender expression different than their biological sex. It can include transsexuals,
crossdressers, drag queens and kings, and people who are intersex, among many others.
Often used interchangeably with "transgender", thought there has been some controversy over this. This typically
refers to someone who was born with a sex that they don't identify with and through hormones and possibly surgery they reconcile
their gender identity and physical sex. All transsexuals are transgender but not all transgender are transsexuals.
Two Spirit: Certain Native American cultures described trangender people as having "two
spirits". Generally Two Spirited people were born into one sex but took on the gender roles of both sexes. Today some
transgender people identify as "Two Spirit."
(GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Queer
and Questioning Teens by Kelly Huegel (Free Spirit Publishing, 2003) Includes tips from people in national GLBTQ organizations,
strategies and advice you can try or share about coming out, responding to homophobia, dating, staying healthy and more).